Wedding Away!
It may seem odd to throw myself full force into the task of planning a wedding in the midst of a monster show and potential move in January (my roommate's tying the knot in December and moving in with him shortly after...I found that out a little over a month ago...) But first, it's actually kind of fun. Not the fantasy day dreaming and wish list stuff, but the actual down and gritty logistics...compiling the guest list and tracking addresses, researching venues, keeping spreadsheets of locations and prices, making phone calls and writing emails...
Second, it offers a distraction from a less than ideal work situation at the moment. At times it may be too much of a distraction...preventing me from accomplishing as much as I should. But it also offers a few minutes of something to focus on that completely revolves around me. In a strange way, that hour or so a day I spend online or on the phone sort of makes up for the days I have not taken off work. (To date, Halloween was the only day off I've had since getting back from the Big Island. Looks like I'll be going straight through to Thanksgiving).
Third, eleven months may seem like a ways out, but we are also several hours west of everyone else. If it can't be done by email, timing becomes tricky.
But already things are shaping up. It looks as though we have found a location for the ceremony. The Lussier Family Heritage Center. It's unfortunate we are unable to see it in person, so those in the Madison area, we heavily value your opinions (and some of you we've leaned hard upon already...) And it seemed a bit pricey. Until we looked at what was included...primarily tables, chairs and set up. This location may limit our catering options though...
The only problem thus far is payment. No deposit. Instead once we confirm the date they mail the contract and expect payment in full within a week. That's a lot up front. And we also have the USPS against us should we have to rely on mailing checks...
Maybe it's time to make friends with Western Union...
Next big hurdle...ceremony reception and officiant. I should have anticipated the hoops to jump when dealing with individual parishes. A lot will not even consider allowing you to use the church for a ceremony unless you are a member of their congregation. That makes things a little difficult when you live in Hawaii. Most, to use their clergy, or even at times the church itself, require marriage counseling. Which is actually brilliant. Anyone sincere about spending their life together should not scoff at a few hours over the course of a few months to discover if they are truly on the same page. But logistically again...being in Honolulu makes it difficult to meet with a chaplain, counselor of minister in Madison. We are getting a little guidance in this area, as far as what faith communities may offer counseling with us here and which parishes in Madison may accept word that we did in fact attend counseling...
It's hairy. But the ceremony, at least to me is just as important if not more than the reception. Yes I'm eager to celebrate this new life with family and friends...but I'm just as eager about the ceremony that will actually bind us towards this new life. I'm willing to jump through the hoops...
Second, it offers a distraction from a less than ideal work situation at the moment. At times it may be too much of a distraction...preventing me from accomplishing as much as I should. But it also offers a few minutes of something to focus on that completely revolves around me. In a strange way, that hour or so a day I spend online or on the phone sort of makes up for the days I have not taken off work. (To date, Halloween was the only day off I've had since getting back from the Big Island. Looks like I'll be going straight through to Thanksgiving).
Third, eleven months may seem like a ways out, but we are also several hours west of everyone else. If it can't be done by email, timing becomes tricky.
But already things are shaping up. It looks as though we have found a location for the ceremony. The Lussier Family Heritage Center. It's unfortunate we are unable to see it in person, so those in the Madison area, we heavily value your opinions (and some of you we've leaned hard upon already...) And it seemed a bit pricey. Until we looked at what was included...primarily tables, chairs and set up. This location may limit our catering options though...
The only problem thus far is payment. No deposit. Instead once we confirm the date they mail the contract and expect payment in full within a week. That's a lot up front. And we also have the USPS against us should we have to rely on mailing checks...
Maybe it's time to make friends with Western Union...
Next big hurdle...ceremony reception and officiant. I should have anticipated the hoops to jump when dealing with individual parishes. A lot will not even consider allowing you to use the church for a ceremony unless you are a member of their congregation. That makes things a little difficult when you live in Hawaii. Most, to use their clergy, or even at times the church itself, require marriage counseling. Which is actually brilliant. Anyone sincere about spending their life together should not scoff at a few hours over the course of a few months to discover if they are truly on the same page. But logistically again...being in Honolulu makes it difficult to meet with a chaplain, counselor of minister in Madison. We are getting a little guidance in this area, as far as what faith communities may offer counseling with us here and which parishes in Madison may accept word that we did in fact attend counseling...
It's hairy. But the ceremony, at least to me is just as important if not more than the reception. Yes I'm eager to celebrate this new life with family and friends...but I'm just as eager about the ceremony that will actually bind us towards this new life. I'm willing to jump through the hoops...
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